Confidence and Masculinity in Dating

Today let's talk about the importance of confidence and masculinity for men in dating. Before we get into this, being confident or masculine doesn't mean you need to be mean to girls (even if some girls actually are unfortunately attracted to that). We're just highlighting that, in general, women are attracted to confidence and masculinity. In my experience, people who say they aren't aren't always being fully honest, so it's something to be aware of.

Anyway, onto the article.

A common mistake men make when talking to women is presenting themselves poorly or focusing too much on their weaknesses. You should never do that. You want to come across as confident, capable, and masculine in how you present yourself.

You don't have to lie, just focus on what you're good at and communicate it clearly and if it comes up in conversation, tell her you're good at it. If you're not good at something, you don't need to highlight it early on. Especially if it's something masculine. If it's something feminine or possibly even neutral you can say you're not good at it but you should follow up with something you're good at.

Here's a few examples:

1. I never liked school and wasn't great at language subjects. But I was really good at math & science. (Also don't overcomplicate things, people can tell when you're trying too hard to impress, which is a turnoff)

   Note: Language is typically more feminine and Math is typically more masculine

2. I'm good at all sports really. Except maybe Soccer. I have good hand-eye coordination and can run fast but my foot-eye coordination needs work.

   Note: Notice I didn't say I have bad foot-eye coordination, I just said it needs work. You don't want her thinking you're "bad" at something, just that it needs improvement

   Note: Also if you're not good at sports, just don't talk about them. And if it comes up, say something like "ah yeah I'd like to play sports more, but I just don't have the time right now". Definitely do not tell a woman you're bad at sports.

3. Fixing things - like a car for example. If you're good at fixing cars or know how to, then tell her you are if cars come up in a conversation. If you're not or don't know how then don't talk about it. If she asks you "can you fix cars" you say "I've not repaired many cars but it'd be cool to learn how to". Because it would be cool to.

You should treat this situation as if you're an employee working in a company. You need to always make yourself look good in front of other people. If you show too much weakness early on, people pick up on that quickly.

This applies to all stages of the relationship and applies to all girls who you are romantically interested in. If you're not romantically interested in them, then it doesn't matter. In fact if you want a girl to lose interest in you, it's a good idea to talk the opposite way about yourself.

Early on, it's not about being perfect, it's about not presenting yourself poorly.

The point here is that, from experience, showing weakness too early usually backfires. Something in their brain just flips and they get the "ick" and suddenly they text you less and then you don't see them anymore. And don't take "you can tell me anything" at face value early on. No no no, that is not always how it plays out. A lot of guys find it can be used against them later. You get some male friends and talk to them about that stuff. The second that you tell a girl something that makes them think you're a loser, it's game over.

At the end of the day, women generally want security and stability. They want to feel safe and secure. A strong confident masculine man makes them feel comfortable. So that's who they are naturally attracted to.